You just don’t believe it.
The crucial part is “believe.” The human brain is a powerful problem-solving and prediction making machine, and it operates via a multitude of feedback loops.
Why would you expect a convincingly successful outcome when you haven’t convinced yourself that it’s possible?
You don’t want to be a distrupter
Disruption means that consistency, stability and certainty might get jettisoned for a time, and that puts our hard-wired internal defense system on high alert. Sometimes, though, you have to override the alarms and move ahead anyway. If you never do, you’ll never know what could happen.
You think, “what if I die tomorrow?”
Would you rather die as a monument to mediocrity or as someone who never quit striving? Which leads to the next one…
You wonder how you will be remembered.
“She/he was a good person, good friend, good….” Good is fine, but it ain’t great. You can’t strive for great achievements by dropping anchor in Goodville. My take on this is: it’s OK to wonder how you’ll be remembered, but don’t let thoughts of “good and nice and stable” effect that all important feedback loop, because if you do your brain will be happy to oblige with lots of good and little else.
You think there must be a pre-established role for your life, and you might be screwing with it
The error in thinking here is clear — agency is a figment our brains rely on to manage difficulty with as little trauma as possible. The first thing to do is recognize that, and then recognize that the role for your life has only one true agent — You.
Your career appears to be well-established and that’s good…right?
Like most things, this is a personal choice and it doesn’t have a right or wrong answer. But it’s worth acknowledging that you may very well be “establishing” yourself out of greater achievements.
You are afraid of losing what you have built
The reality is, you can lose everything in a heartbeat through no fault of your own, so why allow that fear to stop you from reaching out for what you really want? This goes in the same basket as “I could die tomorrow.” Yes, true, we can lose, we can die. So what? Push forward.
Confusion about where to go
Of all of these ideas, this one is to me the most difficult because it plagues me almost constantly. Gearing up the cerebral feedback loop for achievement is one thing, but without a sense of focus and direction, all of that energy isn’t going to yield very much in the end.